A female reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (3 February 2012): My personal opinion is that if you really don't want to be around his family, because his sister is verbally abusive, then you have every right not to go. Your husband may see the tension between you and his mother, but unless you say something to him, he may think you have it under control. January 10, 2023, 11:40 am, by A strong relationship comes in the form of a lot of sacrifices and compromises. He might be feeling overwhelmed and unable to manage all of his responsibilities or feel pressure from outside influences. Youre him what he needs from your marriage. Time is the more important factor and if you can make it so that you're both dedicating time to teach other, things can work out in the long run. Your husband may not even be aware of what he has done and how it has affected you. You dont want to isolate him; you just want to make sure there are healthy boundaries in place. It can help to list out some specific examples under each point. Thinking about regaining the status of "Happily Married"? We bickered every now and then, but nothing too serious. Are you tired of living in a relationship in which you feel neglected? 65. Of course, he should love his mom, but he also needs to set healthy boundaries. I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was. By Annie Lane. It's completely natural for a parent to put a child before their new partner, because that's what they're supposed to do. //